Suffering, fear and anxiety often lead us to run away and to search for a refuge where we can hide and be alone.
Running away from a problem is not the answer. On the contrary, it gives us, the illusion of having created a distance between ourselves and the problem we do not want to face. We will never be able to leave our past behind if we are still wrestling with it. We will never really be focused on the future if every challenge is lived with the fear of losing the game.
So, what can one do to calm one’s mind and take care of one’s heart?
1. LISTEN TO OUR BREATHING. It helps us to become aware of ourselves. Deep breathing calms the thoughts of an anxious mind and even has a positive effect on depressive disorders.
Additional value: practice pranayama yoga with a good teacher.
2. OBSERVE OUR THOUGHTS and remember that not everything that comes into the mind is necessarily true.
3. We are not our emotions; WE ARE MUCH MORE!
Let’s get off the roller coaster of our emotions, observe our body and identify its signals. Are the shoulders tense? Are the muscles of the mouth contracted? Let’s stop gritting our teeth, with a smile, and open our hearts, focusing again on our breath and following it on its journey to every part of the body.
4. MARVEL AT OUR OWN PRESENT SITUATION. When was the last time we did something for the first time? If we are still thinking about it, let’s make the effort, every day, to find something new that we need to tackle, or to do our routine tasks in a different way.
5. APPROVE OF OURSELVES. Everything we need is within each one of us. Let’s give ourselves all the love we need, with compassion and without judging (we are often the severest judges of ourselves).
In practice: lie down on the floor, bring the knees up to the chest and embrace them. The sensation is like the feeling one gets when meeting a long-lost friend again.