BETONY VERNON

WITH HER WHITE SKIN AND HER RED HAIR SHE APPEARS LIKE A DIVA OF BURLESQUE. BETONY VERNON, ARTIST, DESIGNER OF SURREALIST EROTIC JEWELS AND SEXUAL ANTHROPOLOGIST. IN FEBRUARY 2013 RIZZOLI INTERNATIONAL PUBLISHED HER FIRST BOOK "THE BOUDOIR BIBLE": A COMPREHENSIVE AND INSTRUCTIONAL GUIDE TO THE NEW SEXUAL LANDSCAPE.

Can you define what an erotic jewel means for you? What needs and desires must it satisfy?
We often think of erotic jewelry as piercings but my Paradise Found Fine Erotic Jewelry collection is comprised of about 300 objects. I believe that erotic jewelry satisfies in primes our innate desire to adorn the body! But many of the objects in the collection also serve the double purpose of pleasuring oneself and/or our lovers. They allow us to provide sensations that we could not feel with our hands and bodies alone. I call these functional objects “jewel tools”. Handcrafted in sterling silver and 18 Karat gold, they all satisfy our desire to feel sexually empowered, ready to please…and to be pleased.

Do you think that in order to fully experience the joys of sex, it is important to integrate erotic objects into a relationship with a partner?
I think that it is important to explore the body as a sexual whole, and the use of sexual objects make this all the more creative, fun and exciting.

What is the biggest taboo in sex today?
Female ejaculation.

You are a supporter of eroticising objects: a jewel can be used as a sex toy. In what other context should we look for erotic pleasure?
In the kitchen!

Your book, The Boudoir Bible, offers a playful approach to sexual practices considered to be forbidden and improper, as well as giving instructions on sexual techniques and tools. In whose hands would you like your book to finish up?
In the hands and on the pillows of any and every sexually mature adult. Young or old knowledgable lovers make for better lovers and happier healthier individuals across the board. It’s time over due that pornography cease to be our only teacher when it comes to sex.

In your opinion, what is the most eccentric sexual practice? And, if there is one, what is the most dangerous?
I guess erotic bondage is considered eccentric by many. It’s an art that can only be mastered through diligent practice. It’s dangerous only if one oversteps their own, or their partners limits, or fails to abide by basic bondage safety rules.

In which place in the world do you think sexuality is lived most openly?
India. Take for example The Deer Horn Muria, an animist tribe living in India’s Chhattisgarh state. Teenagers practice a ritual known as the Ghotul. The ceremony takes place in a sort of dormitory where tribal dances, traditional songs and the pleasure of the flesh are learned! Teen age girls are encouraged to choose a different sexual partner every night. If they happen to fall pregnant, in spite of the herbal birth control that is served up, the entire village adopts the baby as their own!

What is your definition of luxury in the sphere of sexuality?
The prioritization of deep sexual pleasure, which can only be obtained over extensive periods of arousal. Making time for sex is one of the few luxuries we can all afford more of!

Why do men have fewer problems talking about auto-eroticism than women?
Many religious groups still condemn female masturbation as sinful. Luckily, the sexual revolution helped to gradually free the female orgasm but many women are still effectively afraid to talk about masturbation. It is as if the pleasure taboo was engrained in our DNA. The best way to shed oneself of its effects is to masturbate more often!

In your opinion, which chapter in your book should a woman learn by heart?
Coaxing the Sexual Vibration: Enhancing the Orgasm. And a man? Riding the Orgasmic Wave: Male Ejaculation Control.

Could you reveal 3 secrets to us that will make a date with a partner unforgettable?
1. Take the time to take care of your body head to toe, inside and out, before you slide into something that you feel sexy in.
2. But don’t eat or don’t drink too much if your plan is to continue the evening in intimacy! A couple of servings of Alcohol will definitely disinhibit us, but alcohol is a vasoconstrictor and thus inhibits rather than enhances blood flow throughout the body, and the genitals are no exception to this rule. So enjoy yourself, but don’t exaggerate if unforgettable sex is part of your evening plans!
3. If you are in Paris, you may want to finish off the evening at The Crazy Horse but no matter where you may plan to go, you should feel free to invite him or her back to your house or hotel room. If you took the time to organize your style before you went out, and intimacy is in the air, you are less likely to have second thoughts. Contrary to popular belief, a little pre-planning goes a long way when it comes to great sex. It also helps to insure that you and our lover won’t be distracted by reality. After all, piles of bills, dirty dishes and laundry are everything but sexy! And remember that the further you remove yourselves from reality, the more likely you are to abandon yourselves to pleasure.